Shhhhhh! SHUT UP and LISTEN!
“I know that you believe you understand what you think I said,
“A wise old owl sat on an oak; The more he saw the less he spoke;
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We have to learn to listen. I know it’s more difficult for some than others. I would consider myself one of those “some” type of people. I have to learn to be more patience and slow down and listen. Sometimes if we listen we can actually learn stuff that benefits us in any kind of way.
“I know that you believe you understand what you think I said,
but I'm not sure you realize that what you heard is not what I meant.”
~Robert McCloskey quotes
~Robert McCloskey quotes
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*HOW TO LISTEN*
1. Step
When you engage in a conversation with someone you need to put all of your other thoughts and concerns to the side and focus on the conversation. This can be tough, especially if you are upset about something or really busy. If you don't put it to the side, it can cause you to miss out on what someone is saying and also cause you to respond with short answers.
When you engage in a conversation with someone you need to put all of your other thoughts and concerns to the side and focus on the conversation. This can be tough, especially if you are upset about something or really busy. If you don't put it to the side, it can cause you to miss out on what someone is saying and also cause you to respond with short answers.
2. Step 2
Look at the speaker directly. Try to make good eye contact, especially when they are telling you the most important information of the conversation. By looking directly at the speaker, you will hear what they are saying more clearly and retain more information.
Look at the speaker directly. Try to make good eye contact, especially when they are telling you the most important information of the conversation. By looking directly at the speaker, you will hear what they are saying more clearly and retain more information.
3. Step 3
If the person is foreign, has a slurred speech, or speaks softly, be sure to watch their mouth to make out the words. People retain a fraction of the information they hear, so it's important not to miss out on what's being said during the conversation.
4. Step 4
Allow the person to finish their side of the conversation before speaking. Instead of trying to interrupt, and get your two cents in, gather information by listening.
5. Step 5
Lastly, the biggest problem people have while listening is that they're trying to formulate a response while the other person is still talking. Again, listen to what the other person is saying and gather information. When they are done speaking, you will be able to quickly respond from having listened so well. If you try to formulate a response while they are speaking, you will find that you miss important information and risk embarrassment when you ask something they already told you.
If the person is foreign, has a slurred speech, or speaks softly, be sure to watch their mouth to make out the words. People retain a fraction of the information they hear, so it's important not to miss out on what's being said during the conversation.
4. Step 4
Allow the person to finish their side of the conversation before speaking. Instead of trying to interrupt, and get your two cents in, gather information by listening.
5. Step 5
Lastly, the biggest problem people have while listening is that they're trying to formulate a response while the other person is still talking. Again, listen to what the other person is saying and gather information. When they are done speaking, you will be able to quickly respond from having listened so well. If you try to formulate a response while they are speaking, you will find that you miss important information and risk embarrassment when you ask something they already told you.
“A wise old owl sat on an oak; The more he saw the less he spoke;
The less he spoke the more he heard;
Why aren't we like that wise old bird?”
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LOL! This is funny to me cuz when i go to work and speak with the managers they listen, but they dont pay attention to what i am trying to tell them. I get soooo mad at these people. OMG! I should print this out and hand it to ALL of them!!!!
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